Virtual therapy in Los Angeles and across California

Therapy for Adulting

Support navigating the curveballs and plot twists of adulthood

Ever look around and think “I need an adult!” only to realize that’s you?

You’ve been diligent in following the plan.

✔️ Graduate high school
✔️ Go to college
❓Get a good job

But being an adult is not all it’s cracked up to be. Maybe the college you were set on all your life didn’t accept your application. Or you show up to your first “big kid job” only to feel lost and confused. Or maybe you literally can’t get an interview to save your life.

Now what? You just do this over and over again, every day until you die? Cool.

It’s like that plan for the perfect adult life missed some things.

Being an adult was supposed to be fun - getting to do whatever you want, going to parties, staying up late, no more rules or restrictions. But instead you’re floundering in doubt about how you’re going to handle it all. Paying bills, staying on top of doctor’s appointments, trying to keep up with friends…And to top it all off, the people around you seem to be THRIVING. Like, really, how are they posting about all these trips and outings and friends? You know social media is just a highlight reel, but it’s hard not to feel isolated.

So you question the plan.

It’s like the rug got pulled out from underneath you, leaving you directionless, stressy, and depressy. The uncertainty of what’s next feels so out of alignment with what your parents want for you and letting them down is just one more spinning plate waiting to crash to the ground.

“I need an adultier adult!”

Helping you navigate big life changes

Imagine feeling solid. Pause and really picture it. You actually enjoy life and value the things you put your energy into. The comparison game has faded and you know their highlight reel is not your failure.

Maybe that looks like

  • Feeling driven or passionate about a career or a cause that’s important to you.

  • Intentionally strengthening and deepening friendships for high quality connections.

  • Developing a system for all the “adulting admin” you didn’t realize came with growing up.

  • Knowing when to REST and what things actually make you feel replenished.

  • Knowing when to ENGAGE and no longer fall into depression naps.

  • Actually having boundaries so your time, energy, and resources are protected.

So, what does therapy look like?

Insight

In our work together, I will guide you in uncovering your values - what is it in life that you really care about and want to focus on? (Not just what everyone else thinks is important). Together we’ll assess if your current life matches the life you want, and where it falls short.

Change

After naming the areas of life that are most important to you, we’ll work on bridging the gap so you can truly live into what you enjoy. We’ll identify small and big goals, problem solve, and strategize to create the action plan for change.

Sustainability

With my support, you will integrate these changes into your daily life, focusing on realistic and intentional steps that you can sustain even when therapy is over. You will walk into the next stages of your journey with a new mindset, knowing that practice makes progress.

Therapy for adulting can help you…

  • Balance the daily stress that keeps pulling you in all directions

  • Live in accordance with the things that truly matter to you rather than simply going with the flow.

  • Problem-solve those sticky situations that make you feel overwhelmed and lost.

  • Live a life of meaning that you’re actually excited to participate in.

Frequently asked questions about therapy for adulting

  • According to Merriam-Webster, adulting is defined as “the act or practice of attending to the ordinary tasks required of a responsible adult.”

    Basically adulting is trying to navigate all the things, even when life throws curveballs. It’s figuring out how to manage responsibilities (work, bills), health (nutritious food, doctors appointments, exercise), fun and enjoyment (hobbies, friends, family), mental health (positive self esteem, confidence, healing), and well, you get the picture.

  • It’s pretty common to feel like you should have your life together. But “shoulding all over yourself” doesn’t usually lead to actually accomplishing anything. It starts to feel even more elusive, doesn’t it?

    You might need therapy for adulting if you’re feeling stuck and unsure how to proceed. Stepping into adulthood is a big life transition, which can be scary, even when it’s a good thing. Life transitions can generate stress, anxiety about the unknown, and loads of self doubt.

    Overall, therapy for adulting offers a valuable opportunity for personal growth, self-discovery, and empowerment, enabling you to navigate the complexities of adulthood with greater resilience and fulfillment.

  • Depression and anxiety are pretty common experiences when struggling with a big life transition because of how destabilizing it can be. When so many things feel new or uncertain, it can generate an “out of control” feeling that’s hard to cope with.

    Therapy for adulting can help you regain a sense of control, strengthen your social supports, better manage stress and uncertainty, and live a life full of things you actually value.

  • Great question. Ask yourself this

    • Am I struggling with all the responsibilities that come with adulthood?

    • Do I feel stuck or perhaps unsure on goals I should go after?

    • Do I feel overwhelmed or disillusioned about what adulthood was “supposed” to be?

    • Am I struggling to make or keep friends in this new stage of life?

    • Do I frequently feel bad about myself, like I’ll never be enough?

    • Am I frequently avoiding trying new things or avoiding things I used to enjoy?

    If you answered yes to some or all of these questions, it’s worth checking in with a therapist.

Reclaim and redefine adulthood